chat etiquette

no hello

Imagine calling someone on the phone, saying hello! — then putting them on hold. 🤦‍♀️
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the problem

Don't make people wait
for your actual question

Don't do this
5 minutes wasted, 4 messages sent
Do this instead
Answered in 1 minute, 2 messages
why it matters

Just ask
the question

Note that Keith could have got his answer minutes sooner, and needn't have kept Tim waiting. In fact, Tim could have started thinking about the question right away!

People who do this are generally trying to be polite by not jumping right into the request — and that's great! But chat is asynchronous by nature. Despite best intentions, you're actually just making the other person wait for you to phrase your question, which is lost productivity (and kinda annoying).

The same goes for:

  • "Hello, are you around?"
  • "hi — quick question."
  • "You got a sec?"
  • "yt?" / "ping"

If it feels too abrupt to skip the greeting, you can still include pleasantries — just put them in the same message as your actual question. It also enables async communication: if someone's away and you leave before they're back, they can still answer — rather than staring at a "Hello" wondering what they missed.

When done right — everyone's happy! 🎉

the tl;dr

Three simple rules

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Rule 01
Lead with your question
Put your actual request in the first message. Don't send a greeting and then wait for a response before explaining what you need.
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Rule 02
Greetings are still fine
Pleasantries are welcome — just include them in the same message as your question. "Hey! Hope you're well. Quick question about the deadline?" is perfect.
Rule 03
Think async
The person you're messaging might not be at their desk. Leave enough context so they can answer even if you've stepped away by the time they read it.
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NO HELLO!

You typed "hello"... the very thing this site is against. The irony is immense.

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